Core concepts

• The lifestyle Consensual recreational social and sexual activity with people outside your primary relationship, with your partner’s knowledge and agreement. Often used interchangeably with “swinging.”
• Swinging Couple-oriented social and sexual recreation. Participation ranges from flirting and watching to full partner exchange, depending on what each couple agrees to.
• Couple Two people who attend and participate as a unit. At most lifestyle events, couples are the primary guests.
• Single An unattached guest. Some clubs and events welcome respectful single men or women; policies vary by venue and night.
• Consent Clear, voluntary agreement to any level of interaction. It can be withdrawn at any time. “No” ends the conversation.

People & roles

• Bi / Bisexual Interested in sexual activity with more than one gender. Common in lifestyle profiles and conversations.
• Bi-curious Open to exploring activity with a gender they have not been with before, without necessarily identifying as bisexual.
• Straight Interested only in opposite-gender partners for lifestyle play.
• Unicorn A single woman who socializes or plays with couples. The term is widely used online; not every single woman identifies with it.
• Bull A man who plays with a couple, often in a hotwife or cuckold dynamic. Usage varies; always confirm what a couple means by it.
• Hotwife A woman in a committed relationship who plays with other partners with her partner’s knowledge and consent. The couple defines the boundaries.
• Newcomer Someone new to the lifestyle. Clubs and experienced guests are generally welcoming — questions are expected.

Clubs & events

• On-premise club A private club where guests may socialize and, if they choose, engage in intimate activity on site. TJ's is an on-premise club.
• Off-premise event A meet-and-greet at a public or semi-public venue. Any further activity happens elsewhere, arranged privately between guests.
• Social / Meet & greet A casual gathering for conversation and introductions, often without on-site play. A good entry point for curious couples.
• BYOB Bring your own beverage. Guests supply their own alcohol; the club provides mixers and bartender service. TJ's is BYOB.
• Private room A bedroom or suite for a couple or small group who want a closed-door experience.
• Group room An open space where multiple guests may socialize or play together. Anyone may politely decline an invitation to join.
• Party clothes What guests change into after arriving — often more revealing or playful than street clothes. Dress for your comfort level.
• House rules Venue-specific policies on conduct, dress, alcohol, smoking, and play areas. At TJ's, see house rules.

Types of play

• Soft swap Partner exchange with limits — often kissing, touching, or oral play, but not intercourse. Couples define their own version.
• Full swap Partner exchange that includes intercourse, with both primary partners aware and consenting.
• Open swinging Playing in the same room as your partner, where each can see and hear the other.
• Closed swinging Playing in separate rooms or spaces from your partner.
• Voyeurism Enjoying watching others. Many guests watch without participating further — that is normal and welcome.
• Exhibitionism Enjoying being watched by others who have consented to watch.
• Threesome Sexual activity involving three people. May be a couple plus a single guest, or another combination everyone agrees to.
• Girl-girl / Guy-guy Same-gender play between guests. Common at parties; never assume someone is interested without asking.
• Ticket Bringing a partner who does not know it is a lifestyle event or is not free to participate. Considered poor etiquette and unfair to other guests.

Abbreviations you will see online

• M / F Male / Female. Used in profiles to describe who is in a couple or who is sought.
• MF Male–female couple.
• MFM / FMF Three-person combinations: male–female–male or female–male–female.
• MFF / MMF Three-person combinations with two women or two men.
• LS Lifestyle — shorthand in forums and profile sites.
• HWP Height–weight proportional. A vague profile descriptor; focus on connection and chemistry in person.
• DDF “Drug- and disease-free.” Still appears on older profiles; many guests today prefer open conversations about health and boundaries instead of shorthand.
• STI Sexually transmitted infection. Responsible guests discuss protection and testing with partners.

Ready to go deeper? Read the swinging FAQs or explore the lifestyle overview.