For many of you this may be your first introduction into what is commonly referred to as the "lifestyle." You may find this intriguing and intimidating at the same time. Many people are nervous and hesitant on their first visit to a lifestyle party or club. We’ve all had the experience of being new once and would like to share some thoughts and suggestions to assist you on your journey.

The terms "lifestyle" and "swinging" are often used interchangeably. Swinging generally means social and sexual intercourse with someone other than your mate, or recreational social sex. This may occur at a house party, a couple-to-couple encounter or at a club. Club parties can be "on-premise" or "off-premise." An off-premise party allows for social interaction and mingling; however, people must make other arrangements and go elsewhere to pursue further activities. The parties at TJ's are on-premise, allowing couples and singles greater opportunity for social interaction and activities with others in a safe, secure and clean environment.

The club is for sensual couples and singles who are looking for a place to have fun and enhance their relationships. Many people enjoy the relaxed atmosphere where they can freely express their sexuality and sensuality in the company of other friendly and open-minded people. Many people come to watch, others enjoy being watched. Some will never sexually interact with anyone but their mate. Some enjoy a softer form of swing that allows for flirting, fondling, kissing and perhaps oral stimulation with others, but does not include intercourse with anyone except their partner. And many enjoy and participate in the full range of pleasures available to them. Your presence at a TJ's event does not obligate you to participate in anyway. Each person must decide what is comfortable and acceptable for them.

If this is all new for you, please have an open and honest conversation with your partner about this lifestyle BEFORE you attend a party. Come enjoy the food, the dancing, the mingling and the watching without feeling pressured to do anything more. Then go home and have a great time with each other (we’re sure you will) while sharing vivid memories of the evening’s sights and sounds. After attending a party you will both be better informed and able to decide what is right for you and your relationship.

This is a night to come out and be sexy and flirty and look your best. And guys, don’t forget to tell your woman how hot she looks. We believe the ladies are in charge of this scene. If the lady is happy then everybody is happy. Go slow. Allow your partner time to get comfortable with this atmosphere and the different ways you may explore your fantasies. This is not for everyone...but many people enjoy more intimate relationships as a result of their experiences in this lifestyle.